Thursday, May 5, 2016

I can't wait until Monday

That's not a phrase I say often, if ever. But I can't wait until Mother's Day is over.

We've never made a huge deal about Mother's Day - a phone call, a card, that's about it. And I don't begrudge anyone who does celebrate and enjoy MD (I'm just going to abbreviate it for the rest of this post). But I'm ready to be done with all the ads and especially all the emails telling me what I should buy for my mom. Just stop.

Let's count all the reasons I'm over MD:

  • My mom is dead. Last year was my first MD after my mom died and Aaron and I did everything we could to avoid all the MD trappings.
  • Aaron's mom is dead. For those who don't know, Aaron's mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on January 21 and died on March 30. She was just shy of turning 68.
  • My grandmother, while still alive, pretty much doesn't remember me. Both of her children are dead, and she doesn't really remember that either.
  • Our church traditionally does baptisms on MD. Two years ago, Aaron and I became godparents to a beautiful baby girl, knowing that she likely wouldn't live to see her first birthday. And she didn't.
  • I'm not a mother. While eventually this was our choice, and 99% of the time I'm very happy with our childfree life, every so often there's that nagging "what if" and "why couldn't I get pregnant when I wanted to." And frankly, now that all of the above has happened, this one has been sneaking up on me a little more than it used to.

I'm not putting all this out there for sympathy, and I hesitated with waiting until Monday to post this. And I do have nieces and nephews and godchildren, both real and honorary. But I'm willing to bet that there are others out there who have similar feelings about MD, and I want YOU to know that I get it. And you're not alone.

Having said all that, for those of you who DO celebrate, I hope you have a lovely day and that you're honored all year long, not just the second Sunday in May.


  1. I feel this way about father's day, it's never been a day I've celebrated. Some father's aren't deserving of being celebrated and unfortunately mine is one of them.

    I hope you enjoy your weekend despite all the MD hoopla, maybe bury yourself in a good book until it's over.


  2. really? I fail to understand why this can't be another day for you to enjoy that you are alive? That you have a husband that loves you etc.

  3. I am 110% behind everything in this post.

  4. Big hugs to you. I know Mother's Day and Father's Day aren't enjoyable for everyone and that's A-okay.


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